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post #1 of 23 (permalink) Old 07-08-2013, 11:28 AM Thread Starter
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Just have to vent

First of all, I love my wife to death. She's a hell of a good cook, quarter Sicilian quarter Scottish, absolutely beautiful, and a wonderful mother to our daughter. She's also more auto-literate than most women. Hell, she helped me press suspension bushings on my Miata years ago till like 2AM in the morning. Really special lady.

BUT, yesterday she asked me a question that had my palm involunarily pressed against my forehead. She asked for my keys to go start up my car (manual trans) to cool it down before we loaded up for church. I told her to make sure the transmission was in neutral, and to push the clutch pedal in before she tried to start. She was raised on automatics, and my attempts to teach her the intricacies of a manual transmission have cost me 1 tranny mount and a clutch on my old pickup truck. So she head on out while I start waking up the baby, and I get this test message.

'How do I know if the transmission is in Neutral?'

I calmly say 'It's in gear now' figuring she'll look at the shift pattern ON THE BLESSED SHIFT KNOB and figure that out.

Then she asks where neutral is.

Does anyone else have a spouse that just can not figure out manual transmissions? I learned to drive a stick when I was 14, and 3 of my 5 vehicles I've owned were manuals. Maybe I just take it for granted that it isn't that complicated.

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My fiancé is so intimidated by a manual that she refuses to even try and learn it. I've tried to get her to but it's "to much work". Not the learning part but the day to day driving. Her lose, my gain. I've been drivin a manual for 10+ years now and it's just second nature.

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I feel your pain. Most cars I have owned are manuals, with the exception of one. She will never learn the excitement, or so I believe. She needs another person to train her.


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I had to laugh, I'm sorry. Otherwise smart, talented people can sometimes be completely clueless about the simplest things- men and women alike.

My wife, for example- she's smart, funny, and can hold her own in a debate on virtually any topic. But she has ZERO sense of direction. If I were to walk her out to the sidewalk in front of our house, and turn her 90 degrees, it would take her 3 days to get back home. If I did the same thing with her eyes closed, I'd never see her again.

However, she can drive stick and enjoys it. All is forgiven.

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God, yes. I tried to teach my fiancee how to drive stick. I was very calm with her (much more than I should have been -- I was teaching her on my, then, 2-week-old 2011 Mazda3). That's a very easy car to learn on. I took her out to a local arena with a GIANT open parking lot (no speed bumps or parking bumps or whatever those things at the end of a parking space are called). Literally, the only thing she had to avoid were the light posts throughout the lot. She was too scared (didn't like the bucking of the car when she messed up with the clutch) and didn't want to "hurt" the car. Then, somehow, the concept of how a steering wheel works eluded her -- she has the clutch in and is rolling incredibly slowly towards a light post, still probably 50 feet away). She freaks out, starts waving her hands, yelling "what do I do?! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!", dumps the clutch, slams the brakes, and immediately bursts into tears.

Now she refuses to let me teach her, so any time we go out where I will probably be drinking, we have to drive her car (and use her gas) because both of my cars are manual. Ugh.

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Now she refuses to let me teach her, so any time we go out where I will probably be drinking, we have to drive her car (and use her gas) because both of my cars are manual. Ugh.
Thank God my Cherokee blood means I sober up in a hurry, or I'd never be able to enjoy a beer.

Yeah, I'm a picky bastard about anyone driving my car, so she kept out of it even when I had my other 3 with an auto. Now with a manual, it's safe.

I get people having issues driving it, it takes a little more coordination than most have been taught with growing up in automatics. Still, you mean to tell me you can't figure out how to put the transmission in neutral?!! F.M.L.

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Though I'm not married, I have yet to have a girlfriend that can drive a manual. And like most of your significant others, even try it out. Hell most of my guy friends can't even drive manual.

I had one girlfriend whose older sister drove a manual nissan sentra (I think it was, it was beat to hell) and one day needed the car to be brought to her at a hospital and asked her sister, my girlfriend, to drive it there. I figured this would be a good time to get some learning in so I tried to teach her and she flipped out, forgot what a steering wheel was, put her feet on the seat, and covered her face while we were moving.

I will never try to teach anyone manual unless they are really set on it. It's not like it matters anyway, being able to drive a manual is like being in a club nowadays.


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Wife will not drive a manual shift. She can drive it, she chooses not to.

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I loved driving my manuals.. Even the two that were really old and not so easy. Was a little disappointed I didn't get a manual 3...hard to find one around here. I miss it and my left foot still goes for the missing clutch sometimes. lol
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