Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Ellicott City, MD
Re: should i be worried?
[quote author=bpboiler3 link=topic=175176.msg3706810#msg3706810 date=1277338947]
I think you are making a big deal out of nothing....losing your license isn't exactly something that I would go around telling people...I bet she is just super embarrassed by the whole situation..brush it off and don't sweat it
Yeah, not telling a bunch of people is one thing, not telling your fiance is another. Hell I'd tell a serious GF even.
I actually chatted with my wife on this one; being engaged means you are preparing to be married. In a marriage you don't hide things from your spouse. In this case it is a lie by ommission. You don't necessarily tell your partner every gosh darned little thing. Example, you wouldn't necessarily tell your spouse "Hey, the cute waiter at my business luncheon was hitting on me", but you would tell them something like "My credit card was cancelled" "The insurance on the car was dropped" "I lost my license" "I cheated on you".
That isn't to say she is cheating on you, I doubt it. She is however at least showing poor judgement in what she is telling you.
I think you should sit down with her and explain that what you are looking for in a marriage is open and honest communication, and not telling you important things like losing her license, as an example (or some of the above) isn't open and honest communication and it is something you NEED in a relationship for it to be successful.
Go from there. Personally if she starts showing a patern of this kind of behavior, no matter how much you might love her, I'd drop her like a hot rock. The lieing could be much, much worse some day and probably would be (if she is showing a patern).