Graduating soon, need some relationship type advice
I'm a senior in college entering into my last semester. With the prospect of "real life" ahead of me, I've started thinking a lot about what can happen over the course of this upcoming year and how to handle the growing pains that will inevitably come with this transition.
One of the big questions at this point is my girlfriend. We've only been together for about seven months now, but we have spent a lot of time together over the course of those months - for most of it I've been able to see her every day and usually spend a many hours together, even if it's just cooking dinner, grocery shopping, or doing laundry together. I can honestly say that she is the only girl I've ever dated that I really really click with. She's smart, funny, and down to earth. I love her, and she loves me.
What everything comes down to is essentially the question of career versus family. I haven't really started my job search in earnest, it's still early for that, but I could pursue a job in my field and start building my career. Best case scenario, I'd live and work in DC a couple hours away from her. Worst case scenario, my job would send me overseas (I'm an international relations major). It's possible, but highly unlikely that I would be able to find a job in this field in the same state as her. It would be difficult going from such close contact to only seeing each other a couple weekends a month, maybe less. She also just changed her major and essentially put her back at the start, so she has 2-3 years of school left. Understandably, she is afraid that I would get tired of driving up to see her a lot, since a lot of it would be rush hour and so on. I like driving, I don't mind spending time in my car, but I don't know how well things could move forward in our relationship with some limited contact.
My other option would be to put off career development for awhile, maybe until she's done with school. I could get a job waitering, maybe eventually bartending, doing something temporary and saving up some money for awhile. I could also dedicate a lot more time to something like studying for the GREs than I would be able to now, or if I had a full-time job, and eventually use the money I save to go to grad school. Obviously, this way I would be able to see her a lot more. We've talked about maybe even moving in together in a year when the lease she just signed is up.
We want to build a life together, I'm just not sure how to go about doing it. Does anyone have any experience with any of this or advice to give me?
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