Am I the A-hole?
I am on an recreational indoor soccer team. It's a 30+ team, so we're all adults and there is minimal childish bickering. I have played with these guys for almost a year. We don't win all of our games, but the guys always show good support of each other...even in defeat. This season we had to add a few new players to the team. Well, the season is only 3 weeks old, and we are still getting to know each other.
Last night we were down 4-1 with a minute left. One of the new guys gets his bag and leaves the bench area, preparing to go home. I took offense to this and told him to get his ass back with the rest of the team. He did not understand my complaint. We argued back and forth. Eventually he walked away and I let it go. I have never seen anyone leave the bench at the end of the game before. It is not the norm.
Am I the a-hole for telling him to quit packing to leave because the game was not over?
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