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post #1 of 27 (permalink) Old 10-30-2009, 10:07 AM Thread Starter
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Am I the A-hole?

Background:
I am on an recreational indoor soccer team. It's a 30+ team, so we're all adults and there is minimal childish bickering. I have played with these guys for almost a year. We don't win all of our games, but the guys always show good support of each other...even in defeat. This season we had to add a few new players to the team. Well, the season is only 3 weeks old, and we are still getting to know each other.

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Last night we were down 4-1 with a minute left. One of the new guys gets his bag and leaves the bench area, preparing to go home. I took offense to this and told him to get his ass back with the rest of the team. He did not understand my complaint. We argued back and forth. Eventually he walked away and I let it go. I have never seen anyone leave the bench at the end of the game before. It is not the norm.

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Am I the a-hole for telling him to quit packing to leave because the game was not over?

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Re: Am I the A-hole?

No. Gotta see it through to the end.


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no, that's like eating a hot dog during the game :P

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Re: Am I the A-hole?

I have never played sports, but my husband is super-soccer-guy. I asked him this, and he audibly gasped in reaction that the other guy would leave before the clock had even run out.

So no, you are not an A-hole, IMHO. He is. (Or at least he acted that way!)
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Re: Am I the A-hole?

Stranger things have happened. Like the Pats/Jets game where the Jets thought they had it locked up with 2 mins left and then just started doing stupid shit that cost them the game. That was epic, by the way :lmao:


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Re: Am I the A-hole?

He shouldn't leave before the end of the game... unless of course it's an emergency. He's just being a poor sport.

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i was pissed. i really took offense. perhaps that's because i was frustrated that we just lost. i probably could have approached it differently, you know, by overcoming my temptation to yell and cuss at him. but i feel that the message was right. my delivery was probably not the best.

it's funny, though. he said,"if you're really upset, perhaps football isn't the sport for you. you should look into tennis." which doesn't make any sense to me. i was upset at him for disrespecting the team. and his solution is that i play an individual sport? hahaha...

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Re: Am I the A-hole?

reading what he did, i was was thinking i probably would have yelled something like "what the f*ck are you doing??? get his ass back with the team", then i saw you did say something along those lines...

thats being a poor sport on his part, whether the games are pick up/competive or whatever never leave before the end of the game unless its for an emergency...

to answer your question, i dont think your an a-hole... and i applaud you

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Re: Am I the A-hole?

Wow what a dick. You should have added something like "you walk out of that door, you're walking off the team." If only you had that control


Next time you guys are winning, and there's a few mins left in the game, tell him it's okay for him to leave because you guys already won.



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Re: Am I the A-hole?

I had a similar situation happen a few months back. We have a company softball team and we're pretty awful. Awful = we've never won a game, ever.

We're a bunch of video game nerds, not athletes! What do you expect :P

In any case, there was a time when a bunch of the team just left during the second game. That alone bothered me, but then when someone got injured and wanted to sit out...they couldn't, because there was nobody there for backup. Not cool. I don't blame you for saying what you said.
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