Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Ellicott City, MD
Okay, so I guess I should just cut my balls off and join a 'wedding board', but frankly those people scare me (yes wife, if you ever read my thread I am talking about you! Yeah, she was on one back in the day).
I get that weddings are about the bride and groom, but why the hell is it that the bride and groom rarely seem to think about their guests at all? My wife and I certainly tried to take our guests in to consideration as much as possible (from making sure there were 3 different dishes for 3 different friends with fairly unique allergies to an all veggie dish for our one extreme vegan friend to having it fairly early for all of our older relatives).
Case in point, my wife's cousin's wedding. PS they are already married (shotgun wedding, sort of), they are just having the ceremony now.
The wedding is labor day weekend. I get that for some people they think its easier for people to travel on a holidy weekend to visit, but face it, for most people it means more traffic, more expensive plane tickets and missing out on enjoying a holiday weekend at the beach or something similar. So annoying, but whatever, I get why couples think this is a wonderful idea.
So chalk that up in the 'annoying catagory'.
Next the ceremony doesn't start until 6pm. I can't honestly think of a single wedding I've been to or heard of from friends/family that has started after 5pm. Even in the summer. Keep in mind here my wife and I have a, by the wedding, a 19 month old son who likes to go to sleep by around 7pm. Then the reception isn't supposed to start until 9pm. Yes you heard right, 9pm. They want to squeeze in 2hrs of pictures before the reception. So no dinner until 9pm at the EARLIEST. Next note, my son hits a wall at about 5:30 right now, if he doesn't have dinner by around then things get UGLY.
Their plan is to party till 1 or 2 in the morning with all their friends.
Please note, all their friends (I mean basically every single one) at this point have children between the age of almost born to 3yrs old. Most are traveling fairly long distances to get there.
Next item, the reception site is 30 minutes from the hotel and from her parent's house (we will likely be staying at her parent's house).
They have a, what will by the wedding, be a 7 month old daughter who will be watched by a baby sitter (they live on long island as well please note). Okay, so they have no problems getting a baby sitter and meeting him/her in advance, cool for them.
Not so cool for a quarter of their guests (all of their friends and some of their family) who all have young children who either
A) Need to leave their young child with relatives to attend the wedding
B) Need to hire a baby sitter sight-unseen (cold chance in hell)
C) Bring their child with them and
1) Hope their child isn't going to melt down being up several hours past their bed time
2) Leave the wedding early (possibly even before the reception)
3) Have one of the parents of the child leave early
So my wife and I are tending toward C3. We are going to see about my in-laws being able to get my dinner boxed and drive it over and then head back to the reception so that I can put our son to bed at a somewhat humane (for him) time and then watch him.
No, the ceremony and reception sites are not booked earlier in the day, they just want a 'party at night' for their wedding despite half their guests either being elderly or having young children. Party through the night I say, but don't make it really hard for a lot of your guests to attend any of the wedding (and 9pm or later for dinner, really? Ain't that a little late?).
Anyone else attend a wedding where it seemed like the bride/groom were totally not taking anyone else in to consideration. I don't mean bending the whole thing for a single guest, if my wife and I were the only people with a young child I would totally understand, but when 1 in 4 people (or more!) on the guest list are being ignored...