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marriage.. and finding the right person.

hey why not? people here always post about their "boyfriend-girlfriend, husband-wife" situations and problems...

lets just have one big ol thread shall we =D?

ill start it off by contributing this very interesting article....
http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publicat...ntSOOU2002.htm


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Re: marriage.. and finding the right person.

There are no guarantees in any relationship. I feel most people don't want marriage due to the "ease" factor of leaving the relationship if the situation arises. Who knows.........

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way to open an open sore bruno

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Re: marriage.. and finding the right person.

the problem with marriage, and by association, why men aren't getting married, is not a fear of commitment, but rather, a fear of communication.

men, in general, are terrible communicators, both in listening, and in speaking.

A lot of men will argue that they're plainspoken, and that it's the women who mix things up. In reality, good communication means you're empathetic to the person you're speaking to, and learn to change your method of communication when necessary, in order to get your point across.

most relationships fail due to insufficient communication, and the unwillingness to put forth the effort to learn to communicate clearly.

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Re: marriage.. and finding the right person.

LOL I'm fine. If I weren't I wouldn't have responded.

I'm just saying that I believe on both sides alot of people look negatively at marriage for the easy out. (my opinion)

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Re: marriage.. and finding the right person.

I personally feel that most guys nowadays feel marriage is a pain.
why marry when you can live together and have all of the positives without the commitment?

this is partially due to women being so sleezy, independent, and self centered.

I MEANT THAT IN THE LEAST OFFENSIVE WAY POSSIBLE. MEN ARE THE SAME WAY.

if men had to marry for sex.. believe me they would

basically i think that people today are TOO independent. my parents are pretty much the only couple i know from their generation that have been together teh full 25 years (so far). and the reason?... in my opinion its because they need eachother. lets be honest here, people fall in and out of love constantly. but i believe that if stay together because you need someone, and are commited... the love comes back eventually.


nowadays the mentality has changed. its. what? you talked to who? fuck that i dont need you....

and peace. divorce.


another factor in my book is the "upgrade". a girl loves a guy to death. but then a new guy comes into work and hes just as nice as her boyfriend but is slightly more attractive.. bam upgrade. they leave the guy they are with simply because they want "the best they can get". <--- i have to admit. ive been guilty of that in the past.


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Im a great listener and a great advice giver.

Either way Ill know I find the right one when I push every single button to the limit and beyond. If she sticks around they maybe. Gotta make sure they can handle the beef. But anyway im 23, what is marriage? Last thing on my mind!

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[quote author=ITHURTZ link=topic=115793.msg2419877#msg2419877 date=1214438257]
Im a great listener and a great advice giver.

Either way Ill know I find the right one when I push every single button to the limit and beyond. If she sticks around they maybe. Gotta make sure they can handle the beef. But anyway im 23, what is marriage? Last thing on my mind!
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in other words, if she's still around inspite of your bullshit, then she's the one?
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Re: marriage.. and finding the right person.

I've been married a whopping 5 years now and couldn't be happier. Without her, I probably wouldn't have had the desire to be the "provider" which enabled me to knuckle down and produce an almost million dollar swing in our finances from debt to equity. We used to fight all the time, now we don't hardly at all because we have learned to communicate and not make mountains out of molehills.

As far as finding the right person, I think two things are important. Number one, don't feel any desperation or urgency in finding that person. Don't try to force it. Number two, don't waste any more time than absolutely necessary once you figure out the one you're with isn't "the one". Call it off. It's better to be single and available than to be in an exclusive relationship that you know is a dead end.
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the sanctity of marriage doesn't exist anymore, it seems. I want to wait until I find the right person before I get married, I'd rather not become a statistic.

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