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3 Year anniversary today, gf thinks were too different

Been a shitty day today. 3 years weve been together, but she/we decided to break for now. I dont really see us getting back together. Apparently shes been thinking this for a few weeks, probably longer. I admit we have become different people than when we first started dating I was 20 then, she was 18. She says she loves me, but isnt in love with me anymore and doesnt see her and me for the rest of her life. I just dont understand why she would have done this today, any ladies know why she would have picked today? Man this sucks

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sorry to hear, i guess she didn't wanna lie and actually celebrate the anniversary for being together, as well as not put it off any longer.
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I 2nd that notion of feeling bad for you. It's one of the risk of a girl getting into serious relationship at 18. She gets older, she starts to feel indifferent, she's 21 and can drink, and she can make a terrible mistake that you are glad you two aren't together anymore for. It also works vice versa as well. I had some friends that we together at around the same age who they both ended up growing out of love with each other, and started cheating on each other. Be glad it happened now then when you're signing the dotted line to be wed.

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I know how you and her both feel. I've been with the same girl all through college and now finishing my masters. We are almost to 5 years and I sometimes feel i want to see other people and that maybe she's not the girl for me. Its hard though because I know my adult years 19-24 as being with her.


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I know what you mean jhershorin. I sometimes think about seeing other ppl, and one of her things is that she wants to get married in like the next 5 years. She always asks me but I can only tell her I dont know, which to her is a no. I just cant say what I will or wont do in 5 years. I might go through something and realize i really do want to get married in a couple years. But I dont plan on it right now. I really hate it around here, bc EVERYONE is married or pregnant or has lots of kids by the time they are like 20. I know very few ppl that are my age and like me, and I just dont get it. I just dont want that kind of responsibility b4 im like maybe 30. I dont know.... thanks guys, as you can imagine my friend base is limited.

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Been there before. When I was 22 many of my friends were dating someone, getting laid, getting married, and having kids. At that time I was single and it was miserable, but I was able to get through it. I focused on losing some weight, since that was something I needed to do for 13 years, and I started going back to college. Everything has worked out great so far. Have had the same girl for 20 months, and sometimes I think about dating someone else, and then reality sinks in. I know I'm never gonna find a girl that is better than the one I have. Most of the time I think about that is, because I've watched a porn or my girlfriend and I argued about something stupid. As a man, I'm still an adolescent when letting my mind wander over sex. That is generally the main reason why people want to move on from a relationship.

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Damn crazy. Sounds almost identical to me. I dated a girl for 3 1/2 years. From when I was 17 to a week before my 21st birthday. I almost didn't know what to do after that. The next few months were some of the best of my life bro. Not just the partying and the no strings attatched sex, (which I had my fair share of ), but being able to make decisions on my own, and have my own time to do what I wanted when I wanted, was great.

On a serious note though, I know how bad it hurts. The urge to call and beg for her to re-think things is going to be there. (I even succumbed to it a few times) But in all honesty, you two won't get back together. If you do, it probably won't be for long. If it doesnt work the first time around, very rarely will it work the 2nd time. Try to keep your head up, and don't lose your pride in anything you do. As far as easing the pain, only time can help that brother.

(On a side note, a few months after I broke up with that girl, I met another great girl who I have been with ever since. I got engaged to her in February and we are getting married next April. Just know that no matter how weird it seems to picture yourself with someone else, there is someone out there.)

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[quote author=Big_Mike_4488 link=topic=111138.msg2295438#msg2295438 date=1210193606]

On a serious note though, I know how bad it hurts. The urge to call and beg for her to re-think things is going to be there. (I even succumbed to it a few times) But in all honesty, you two won't get back together. If you do, it probably won't be for long. If it doesnt work the first time around, very rarely will it work the 2nd time. Try to keep your head up, and don't lose your pride in anything you do. As far as easing the pain, only time can help that brother.

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+1 to all of the above.

I've been there, too. Looking back on it, it was one of the best things to ever happen to me.
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[quote author=fatabbot link=topic=111138.msg2295448#msg2295448 date=1210193730]
[quote author=Big_Mike_4488 link=topic=111138.msg2295438#msg2295438 date=1210193606]

On a serious note though, I know how bad it hurts. The urge to call and beg for her to re-think things is going to be there. (I even succumbed to it a few times) But in all honesty, you two won't get back together. If you do, it probably won't be for long. If it doesnt work the first time around, very rarely will it work the 2nd time. Try to keep your head up, and don't lose your pride in anything you do. As far as easing the pain, only time can help that brother.

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+1 to all of the above.

I've been there, too. Looking back on it, it was one of the best things to ever happen to me.
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+1 and besides that, you may start dating other people soon and maybe not meeting anybody like her, dont compare and be opened minded, dont date the same type of woman twice, this works vice versa, she may start dating and think you were the one, but be careful with your heart and those impure thoughts, i know a guy who broke it off with this girl he hated to be with, and a few beers and phone calls later they have a kid and despise eachother!

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Good info for the OP guys. You guys have more experience of failed relationships than I do myself. I just know from previous experience that I've seen with my friends.

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