I have this stupid friend
As many of you know I have quite a few girl friends that I've known for years that I hang out with time to time. I'm about to explain to you a situation that sits uneasy with me (and I'm sure some of you would think that I like her more than friends, but that is not the case.)
I have this friend named Chels that I've known since we've been in junior high. Basically I've known here for half my life. We've only been staying in contact again for about 8 months, because she went off to another college and I stayed at home to go to the 4 year college in my town. We met back up this summer and we had some really good times to chilling out, watching movies, and talking about past times. Well anyways she's some what of a NEMPHO and she ranks sex high on the charts of what makes a relationship work. I personally enjoy sex as well, but no where near as much as she does. She's ranks sex so high that she will take abuse to make a relationship work. She has told me that she was in an abusive relationship her senior year of college when she was living with this guy. Anyways I'm gonna get to the story that's at hand.
She met a guy through a friend named Jamey who fit her profile of what she wants out of a guy. He was smart, funny, cute, great in bed, and well you know the rest. The downside of this is he's somewhat afraid of committment and is constantly letting her down. She had more than one episode where they would have see each other one night, have a good time, have sex, and then she wouldn't hear from the guy for 2-3 weeks. In the meantime when I would talk to her I would have to hear about how she wants this to work so bad. This went on from probably July-December when he had to move, because of his job. She agreed to stay in touch with him, but during the time before he left she was on the verge of a meltdown. She went to the doctor and got on some medicine to control her anxiety. She's one of those people that everything has to go her way or she is not a happy camper. In a way she's very selfish.
So Jamey leaves and at first Chels wanted to talk to this guy, but then she was like I want to cut off contact because he is not good for my mental well-being. Well that worked for a few days and she ended up just being completely miserable and started talking to him again. She even bought a cat during this time to keep her company while this guy is gone. We used to hang out a lot, but ever since she met this guy she not only has cut me off, but all of her very close high school friends. Now we are going to fast forward to this week. She's been talking to Jamey heavily and is now telling him that she misses him and she wants to be with him. This week he was close to our area and she drove 1.5 hrs to go and pick him up. I obviously was a little frustrated with her, because I feel she's forcing this relationship to work. A lot of us are in the dark about this guy and we only hear the negatives that are going on and never the positives. Well she picked him up on Tuesday and she said it was really a good time, but he still doesn't want to committ. Also ever since she's been on this medicine she has had no libido, but as soon as this guy comes around she gets very horny. Sorry, we have a fairly open friendship so neither one of us gets embarrassed.
What should I do about this friendship? I'm really tired of wasting my breath because she is an adult and can do what she wants to do, but I don't want to see her sink and drown. I can't say this guy is the right guy for her, because everytime he leaves she ends up crying for a day or two. Then while he's gone she misses him like crazy. I feel like their relationship is a big loop that is not going to work out for either party. I have given her my side of how I feel, but it seems she's really in love or thinks she's in love with Jamey. I've been this way a few years back and it definitely didn't work out the way I wanted it too.
LMFAO "oh i thought i didn't need that" i bet in your head you were like "go kick your mom in the ass for me when you get home " 08mazda2.0