Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Ellicott City, MD
Re: Who has been a Bestman before?
Leave the long speechs for the father of the bride or the maid of honor (better yet, pray they don't happen at all). Unless you are truely gifted at speech giving or really think you have an awsome speech keep it to a minute or less. If you think it might be longer try running it by one of the other groomsman to see what they think.
As was mentioned talk about the groom, in fact it is even okay if more then half the speech is about them, it is asumed that you know the groom better then the bride (especially if the groom is a brother or cousin). DO NOT FORGET TO TALK ABOUT THE BRIDE and the bride and groom as a couple though, and make it more then a scentence.
Often times start with talking about the groom. Maybe a quick funny story about them, but don't make it anything that is crass or could be really embaressing...that is what bachelor parties are for, NOT wedding receptions. Maybe talk about how great of a guy the groom is and why you think it (because you have been best buds since the begining of time and he has always been there for you or whatever).
Then talk about the bride who wonderful you think she is. Then maybe a quick story about how they met or something like that and just close by saying how wonderful you think the two of them are together and the many long and joyous years they have together...oh and how much you hope you won't have to be your friend/brother's best man ever again (I am joking about the last part, for the love of God don't say that part).