some issues with ladies' lounge
i don't post on this site much, but like all men, i gravitate towards the women, especially on a car forum. i am engaged but love the window shopping.
i've noticed a lot of "men suck" threads lately, and actually all opinions are pretty valid. men are far from perfect.
but i can't reply on that lounge, so i'm replying here.
topic #1 i'd like to discuss: paying vs. not paying on a date.
women need to be careful what they wish for. 1st of all, women's freedom is all over the media: women's independence is flaunted in modern history books and music video's, and since a lot of women are working, a lot of the times they make more money than men.
in my opinion, it would seem too traditional, almost backwards, to have a man pay for everything. especially when everything is so expensive these days, it's probably a better sign of the times to have each person foot the bill.
ah, but men have always been more logical thinkers when discussing these issues. women have a dilemma here: they like feeling romanced, they like feeling special, but they never want to think they're needy.
my opinion: if it's a special anniversary dinner, or an extremely expensive special weekend, split the bill. if it's just a regular dinner, take turns paying. but the days of chivalry are over, and i'll tell you why: it has become very politically incorrect to assume that the man is supposed to take care of the woman.
topic #2 i'd like to discuss: why men get angry when they don't get any
listern ladies, if there's one thing that's perfectly clear, it's that men, ALL men, want it. from the nice, to the needy, to the sissy, to the greedy. that's the one thing all men have in common. so if you're at a stage in your life when you're not ready, or willing, to give it up, expect some turbulance in the relationship.
don't think of this as having to be his doormat. there are limits. but just like how there's limits in one direction, there are limits in the other direction as well. this need of ours is primal; if we don't get some sort of minimal amount, we generally look elsewhere. and if we don't keep things exciting, we look elsewhere as well.
this is not an excuse to cheat; men should be just as loyal, PERIOD. but just like men have to accept certain things about women, this area should be considered a given. if you don't give it up as often as he would like, find another boyfriend, or expect some turbulance.
and if you think i'm being some sort of bygot, find me one man that will put up with it for extended periods of time. something will give eventually, given a long enough timeline.
if you're in the mood to be alone, need some time to yourself, are not in the mood too often, my advice is not to date until you're ready for the action again.
feedback from the men is highly appreciated, as these are just my opinions.
It's like pointing a finger to the moon....concentrate on the finger, and you miss all that heavenly glory