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post #1 of 43 (permalink) Old 12-19-2006, 06:01 PM Thread Starter
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living together before marriage???

what are your thoughts on the subject?? my g/f and I have been discussing the whole topic of moving in together.. She is still in college and I have graduated.. We both currently live on our own and are both tight on cash so living together would save hundreds a month.. But I dont know about the whole subject, some of it sounds great and some sounds not so good.. Plus I have had friends that lived with their b/f / g/f and for some it turned out great and some it turned out VERY BAD...
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i dont know. i dont think I would recommend living together cause you both will show you bad habits and maybe drive each other off in my opinion. But i can imagine myself in love with a gf before marriage and doing it still.

I dont want my gf to know when im pooing tho. lol
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Im one of the ones that it was AWESOME, but it went bad.

If you're considering marrying this person, do it. Its the only way to be sure you can live with them during marriage.
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[quote author=kspec link=topic=64940.msg1113263#msg1113263 date=1166569441]
I dont want my gf to know when im pooing tho. lol
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i cant even imagine what would happen when we get back from the spicy Mexican and it hits ya, you know!! lol... thats when you RUN down to McDonalds!! lol...
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I lived with my wife before we married. It is definately up close and personal and you will figure real quick if she is the one or not. Just figure out a way to make sure you have time alone, either fixing the car, or whatever, especially at the start, you will need a place to get away. That being said we are married almost 4 years and it is great.


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I have been with my wife for just over 6 years, married since May 14th, 06, and living together after about 8 months of dating.

You both should sell your homes and get one together if your going to marry her one day or think your goin to be together for a long time.

if the above doesnt apply then you should figure out whose movin in with whome and go from there.

good luck its not that bad i enjoyed " IHP "
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if you cant live with eachother while dateing...

how does that make it different from being married?

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My gf and I have been living together from pretty early on (hit the 5-year tick in september), it's worked out well for us, though it can get to be a bit clautrophobic sometimes since our apt isn't that big.

Canada77 made a good point: make sure you both have an area that is pretty much reserved for "your stuff", whatever that may be. My gf has a desk that is divided off from the rest of the living room by a bookcase, where she has her laptop, school stuff, drawing materials, etc. I have a corner in the bedroom with my game pc, and that I am allowed to get as cluttered as I want with my geeky projects.

The only time I would give a definitive "no" to the idea is if you're not sure you're ready for a serious long term relationship. If you can't see yourself even potentially marrying this person someday, then don't even consider about moving in together. However, if you can see yourself being with this person long-term, then at some point you're going to have to face the issue of living together. At that point, it's just a matter of how sure you are that you can cope with sharing an apt/house.


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[quote author=Mattleegee link=topic=64940.msg1113320#msg1113320 date=1166570909]
if you cant live with eachother while dateing...

how does that make it different from being married?

"mine as well find out sooner then later"
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It's pretty true.


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Re: living together before marriage???

I think you would have to be completely insane to marry some one without living together first. You THINK you know someone... you don't. When you live together THEN you get to know someone. Every little habit, quirk, oddity, ritual etc. When you're dating a girl and haven't lived with her you are only getting one side of the picture... generally the good side

(I've lived with my girlfriend for over 3 years now, couldn't be happier, but those first few months there is definetly a lot of "Discovery" lol)

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