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post #1 of 17 (permalink) Old 10-26-2006, 08:47 PM Thread Starter
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I really don't get life sometimes

A rant about things currently on my mind....

My life is fairly simple, but yet, its overly complicated.

First off, I live on my own, I'm 20 years old. I bust my ass working 60-75 hours a week, while mixing in school with 18 credit hours this semester. Set to graduate with my bachelors in May. I'm either at one of my two jobs, at school, or driving between them. I don't have much free time, but I damn sure make the best of it when I have it. I don't have a girlfriend due to having a few really ugly relationships in the past. And just when I think things might be turning around in that department, I either get royally screwed over in some grand fashion, or I get blown off. Fairly dissapointing. Really makes me doubt myself when I think that the common denominator in these situations is me, even though each situation is entirely different. It's just so damn frustrating, and I don't get it at all.

Oh and speaking of work. I got a promotion yesterday at one of my jobs, after only being there for 2 months. I now get the responsibilities of managing the store when a manager isn't there, 70% of the time. And closing the store, and making sure everything is ready to go for the next day at the end of the night. Best part is, I nearly doubled my workload which was allready pretty damn crazy, and yet, I didn't see a penny for a raise. A note to managers out there: Giving someone a promotion without a pay raise is like kicking them in the nuts and telling them it was a blow job.

And then theres the parents who live 700 miles away. They say I lack direction in my life, and that I lack motivation. They seem to believe that I'm going nowhere with my life. They may or not be right. I mean hell, I live by myself, I have no debt besides a car payment of $249 a month for 36 months, I have 2 really good jobs that I like a lot. I'm happy, for the most part. What more could they ask for? "Be more like your brother, hes got his head on his shoulders." My brother? Nothing against him, but hes 23 years old, and still lives with my parents. HE BAGS GROCERIES FOR A LIVING!

Meh...I guess its time for a vacation again. Escape this skewed reality called life for a bit.

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Re: I really don't get life sometimes

Sounds like you've got it together pretty good! I think I would decline the promotion without a raise.
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Re: I really don't get life sometimes

Tell your parents to eat sand and run your own life. I'd actually make that point to them about your brother still living at home and working at a grocery store to them. That's pretty shitty that they talk down to you like that, b/c you seem like you're doin okay to me.

Here is a bit of insight about girls. Don't fuck with em until you're done with school. I was in your situation my last semester of college. Workin full time, 6 classes, and had a girlfriend that decided to rip out my heart my last month. That almost broke me right there. It took me to the edge of sanity to keep it together and finish up.

Girls take more of a toll on you that work and school ever will. Feelings are messed up, women are evil and you will NEVER understand either of them.

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Re: I really don't get life sometimes

first off, let me give you props for getting two jobs and enrolled in college fulltime. I dont know how you guys can work and go to school at the same time, even if the job is only part time. I'm set to graduate next year with BS in cell, molecular and developmental biology... with a neuroscience minor next year... (it'll be my 5th year), i'm remaining hopeful to get accepted into a Ph. D program in one of the UCs... and i need all the time i can get to study my materials, my honest opinion is that 24hours a day is simply not enough.

2nd off, life is like that... the older we get, the less people we'll know, and less people to watch out and cover our asses. Just keep on fighting man, i grew to accept the fact that undergrad is the toughest years of one's life, also the best too.
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Re: I really don't get life sometimes

As far as the woman issue goes... I think you care a little too much. Don't read that wrong. I dont mean stop caring. I mean you're thinking about it and getting frustrated. If a girl blows you off, even if you thought it was going somewhere... just say "Eh... eff you too, I dont care." And really mean it. Then move on.
I found that struggling with the love life makes it worse. You need to have a carefree mentality about said "love life" and then all of a sudden... chicks dig you. Why? I dont know. Its something psychologic in their brains. Its like when a girl says to you, "I dont think I can see you... you're too nice." WHAT?!?! You care too much. Blow her off a few times. I know its screwed up and makes no sense, but its what they want. Just dont be a dick about it too much, or too often. They eat it up for some reason.

Or... forget the women and get that degree. Get the good job, the stable life and the house FIRST... then the love life.

Just my .02... take it as you please.

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P.S. No disrespect bro... but your parents have issues. You my friend, are doing the right thing. Do NOT be like your brother. I was your brother a few years ago.

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Re: I really don't get life sometimes

You hit the nail on the head with that about girls man. That's exactly how it works. Really fucked up I know, but it's how it goes.


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[quote author=SlickMZ3 link=topic=60755.msg1034629#msg1034629 date=1161921779]
As far as the woman issue goes... I think you care a little too much. Don't read that wrong. I dont mean stop caring. I mean you're thinking about it and getting frustrated. If a girl blows you off, even if you thought it was going somewhere... just say "Eh... eff you too, I dont care." And really mean it. Then move on.
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That's the hard part. Usually when you blow a woman off, she comes running back. You have to hold your ground.

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You need to have a carefree mentality about said "love life" and then all of a sudden... chicks dig you. Why? I dont know. Its something psychologic in their brains. Its like when a girl says to you, "I dont think I can see you... you're too nice." WHAT?!?! You care too much. Blow her off a few times. I know its screwed up and makes no sense, but its what they want. Just dont be a dick about it too much, or too often. They eat it up for some reason.
It's ass-backwards, isn't it? Absolutely true, though. They lose interest in guys that they can use, or guys that bore them. Women need a challenge and a man who can make a firm presence for himself and not be a tool (in other words, give off an essence of masculinity). The idea that he can leave at any time keeps them interested in pleasing their man. In that respect, women like to be dominated. They complain about it to their friends and they might cry now and then, but for some strange reason, they make sacrifices and stick through it instead of walking away... because the next guy might be a tool ;-) Don't be a tool. It's unattractive if you make it easy for a woman to have her way with you. As the relationship develops and you approach marriage, you can be more and more "cooperative" and "a good guy" for lack of better terminology. They like assholes, but I don't think they like to marry assholes. At some point, you need to show her that you have enough maturity to settle down and make things work for your future together.

My $0.02

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Or... forget the women and get that degree. Get the good job, the stable life and the house FIRST... then the love life.
More or less, this is my plan too. I think it's a good one. Be open to any good relationships that might develop in the meantime, but your real goal for now is the degree, not a woman.

smokinAMD, stop caring so much what women think of you and just do your thing man.


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I'm not overly concerned about the women situation. I just find it slightly annoying that someone will say "Oh hey, I like you a lot, I really do." And then basically just ignore you completly. Then again, I don't know what exactly is going on with that situation so I'm just chilling, hopefully it will work out. It just stings a bit when you have a lot in common, and you like them as well. I'm certaintly not looking for anything serious right now. Not after my last serious relationship, that sucked the life outta me and probably killed about half my brain cells from the mind games she played. She was an evil, vicious bitch, from which there was no escape.

My goal in life as of right now, is to move out of the damn ghetto right now. Saving up for a nicer place. Found a nice condo for $950 a month with a 2 car garage. Certaintly not the $460 a month I'm paying for rent right now, but 2 car garage gives me a chubby. Would be nice having my giant toolbox in a garage and not in my bedroom. This place really isn't that bad, it's worked out for me pretty well so far, but there certaintly are much better places.

School's pretty much a joke to me, so I'm not too worried about it. It is important to me, but its not a huge challenge. I can't tell you how many times I've had a test, that I've never studied for, never even read the chapter for it, and managed to pull off a 93% Guess we'll find out come Wednesday, when I take a certification test, heh. Sheer irony of it is, before I was working so much, and I had time to study and take advantage of it, I'd actually do worse. Go figure. I can't wait to be done with that school. Even though I've got pretty decent grades, I'm going to get a "Did not meet expectations" grade for work ethic this semester. Why? Because I showed up a few times and I wasn't clean shaven. My personal favorite was when I got sent to the deans office because my shoes were no longer shiney and they were dull looking. For christ sakes, you'd think I was in the military.

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Just go to your HR department and refuse the promotion. I was in the same situation but they gave me a dollar raise. I told them I didn't want it because it meant 1000% more responsibility. Since I was in school at the time I didn't need anymore stress.
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Props to you for doing what you're doing with your life. In a way me and you are comrads. I work full time and go to school full time, it's a busy schedule but at the same time, I value my free time more and more everyday. I don't have any girls problem but slight difficulties with my current relationship. After reading some of you guys posts, I feel enlighten and informed about what I should do. Feels pretty fucking great to be intellected and learned something new, today. Thanks for the informative replies.


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