Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Ellicott City, MD
Re: away on a business trip
Yeah, I was waiting till she gets back later today to talk to her about it. I really am not mad mad, just annoyed and a little hurt. I am not raging nor do I feel like she doesn't care about me.
It is her first business trip, though not her first time at this convention. She attened the annual convention in college and graduate school, she is just attending in her capacity working for GWU this year.
I have been on one business trip before, I can understand how busy it can be, but when every evening she 1) went out to dinner with 4 or 5 friends 2) went to a bar after dinner every night 3) went dancing two nights and a carbaret last night and she didn't manage to find the time say before dinner even for 10 or 15 minutes to call kinda hurts. Heck the woman she was sharing a room with is married and I think would understand if my Fiance had said "I hate to ask this, but can I have 15 minutes to call my Fiance". I know on my business trip I could have found at least 15-20 minutes every day in which I could have called someone if I had wanted to without offending anyone (the trip was actually right before I started dating my Fiance).
I think the other thing about this that bothers me is the last trip she took since we started dating/got engaged was back in early January right before we got engaged. She went on a 6 day cruise with her parents, brother, and a few family friends (6 I think?). On the cruise, despite the difficulty she still managed to call both when she got into port before the cruise left, when it got back into port and also one of the days she could get to a pay phone on one of the islands. Every time was a real conversation, heck the last day we talked for 2 hrs. This time around it was completely different.
Knowing my Fiance she is probably going to get a bit mad at me for bringing this up, but it is bugging me so I need to bring it up with her. I could always bring up all of the chores and errands I have been doing for her while she has been gone and the picking her up and dropping her off at the airport as well...but I think that would just get me in trouble.
I have found women seem to get pissed off when you point out that they are 1) being insensitive to your feelings (cause guys, admit it, we have feelings to, and they do occasionally need to be addressed, even if it is only 3rd tuesday of the month or something) or 2) you did a bunch of favors for them, so maybe they should 1) cut you a little slack or 2) maybe they owe you for all of the favors. Oh yeah, and logic NEVER wins.
Sigh, anyway, thanks for the feedback