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Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

Ok, here is the story:

I am over at my girlfriend’s house helping her hang some curtains. I take his as being a rather strait forward job. It requires a drill, screws, and a set of curtain rods. So I start the process by asking her to eye ball me while I hold the curtain rods up above the window to see if they are strait. In order to do this I have to stand on her couch to get up high enough. I take my shoes off and hike up on top of the couch using the ends as standing points. She tells me where she wants them to sit and so I make pencil marks to determine here to drill. As I get down from the couch she asks me not to stand on the couch anymore while hanging the curtains because she does not want me to break it. Proceed to say" ok, but we are going to have to move the couch out away from the window" since it is right under neither where we are hanging the curtains. She huffs off and gets pissed stating "don't sound so condescending". I am was not condescending at all, I was just pointing out that in order to get the curtains hung and not stand on the couch we would have to move it and a table in order to put chairs in it's place.

I proceed to drill the pilot holes for the curtain rods because I assumed that her huffing meant she didn't want to move the couch. After the holes are drilled she comes up to me and states that she wished that I would have more respect for her furniture because I COULD have broken it by standing on it. I ask the obvious question "Did I break your couch?” She states that that is not the point.

Ok, I find this highly ironic since this woman has been talking about us moving in together. I nicely and calmly ask her what would happen when things are no longer her stuff and my stuff and we live together with our stuff. She doesn't like this question and states that at that point she would hope that I would have a little more respect for material things and be more conscious about standing on things that may break. I then calmly and nicely say that I didn't break her couch and that I would have hung the curtains the same way in my house or in “our” house. I then state nicely and in a calm, normal voice (I have not gotten angry this whole time) that she can hang the center screw because I don’t want her to worry about me breaking the couch and that we would have serious problems if and when we were ever to live together because things would no longer be hers and mine, but ours, and with her mind set with this approach everything would be hers and that I wouldn't be able to hang the curtains in any manner that wasn't 100% acceptable to her terms.

She proceeds to stomp off into the bedroom where she is now pouting about the fight we just got into. I am posting this and then going home. This is not the first time this has happened. I can not do anything right around this woman and everything has to be her way.

Am I in the wrong here or can I just chalk this up to her being a control freak? What do ya'll think should be one here?
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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

I think she should get a grip and hang the curtains her damn self if she has a better way to do it.


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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

^^ahahahah EXACTLY! But yea, I think she is a TINY BIT of a control freak! I don't understand her logic tho... isn't the couch supposed to be able to hold all of your weight (say, like when you are sitting on it), so why would it break if you are standing on it? (This of course doesn't include jumping around on it...but you know what I'm getting at!)


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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

Is this a joke? Maybe instead of posting about this particular issue while she is still upset you should try and solve the issue the proper way....just a thought.

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I dunno budgy, If my girlfriend started nagging about me breaking the couch when i'm putting up HER damn curtains i wouldn't waste my time solving "the issue"...its clear that "the issue" is her being a little too controling and i'd just let her come to her senses instead of getting into a screaming match with her!


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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

Well im staying out of it from now on, but it seems like posting about such a small issue is a waste of time. I mean you got into an arguement of some kind about hanging curtains, and your posting about it on a huge online forum, I thought people (esp. couples) fight about stupid shit all the time.

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Just drag that pos couch outside and burn that muther down.. then tell her this couch wont come between her and you again.


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[quote author=Brian805 link=topic=24295.msg328532#msg328532 date=1119819934]
Just drag that pos couch outside and burn that muther down.. then tell her this couch wont come between her and you again.
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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*

Well, although I'm a guy, I would have been about equally displeased with you using my couch as a ladder, but waiting until after you'd finished using it as such to voice her displeasure was a bit unreasonable. The time to do it would've been in advance, and then get pissy if you went ahead and climbed the couch anyway. Better yet, knowing that you're not eight feet tall, she could've had the couch moved and a ladder handy when you arrived.

I think your biggest concern isn't your differing outlooks on the treatment of property, but how and when she chooses to be upset about things. You definitely want to be on the same page about your expectations before moving in together, and if this is an example how she usually handles things (watch silently and then complain after the fact), you may want to consider trading her in for a better model


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Re: Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationshi

[quote author=Gigolo Jason link=topic=24295.msg328424#msg328424 date=1119807677]
Am I in the wrong here or can I just chalk this up to her being a control freak? What do ya'll think should be one here?
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Sounds like your girlfriend has an attitude problem.

Furthermore (and this is THE most important question of all to ask her), what DIFFERENCE does it make if you're standing or sitting on the couch? It's still the same weight of your body. If you can break it standing on it, you can break it sitting on it. For that matter, you'd better never have sex on the couch. Any rough play might break it. Also, you'd better not cuddle or have her sit on your lap...the weight of both of your bodies in the same spot might break the couch.

You've got two choices here: Get rid of your pissy, irrational girlfriend or get rid of the extremely fragile (in her mind) couch. I think I know what I'd do...


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