Control freaks and the politics behind hanging window curtains. *Relationship*
Ok, here is the story:
I am over at my girlfriend’s house helping her hang some curtains. I take his as being a rather strait forward job. It requires a drill, screws, and a set of curtain rods. So I start the process by asking her to eye ball me while I hold the curtain rods up above the window to see if they are strait. In order to do this I have to stand on her couch to get up high enough. I take my shoes off and hike up on top of the couch using the ends as standing points. She tells me where she wants them to sit and so I make pencil marks to determine here to drill. As I get down from the couch she asks me not to stand on the couch anymore while hanging the curtains because she does not want me to break it. Proceed to say" ok, but we are going to have to move the couch out away from the window" since it is right under neither where we are hanging the curtains. She huffs off and gets pissed stating "don't sound so condescending". I am was not condescending at all, I was just pointing out that in order to get the curtains hung and not stand on the couch we would have to move it and a table in order to put chairs in it's place.
I proceed to drill the pilot holes for the curtain rods because I assumed that her huffing meant she didn't want to move the couch. After the holes are drilled she comes up to me and states that she wished that I would have more respect for her furniture because I COULD have broken it by standing on it. I ask the obvious question "Did I break your couch?” She states that that is not the point.
Ok, I find this highly ironic since this woman has been talking about us moving in together. I nicely and calmly ask her what would happen when things are no longer her stuff and my stuff and we live together with our stuff. She doesn't like this question and states that at that point she would hope that I would have a little more respect for material things and be more conscious about standing on things that may break. I then calmly and nicely say that I didn't break her couch and that I would have hung the curtains the same way in my house or in “our” house. I then state nicely and in a calm, normal voice (I have not gotten angry this whole time) that she can hang the center screw because I don’t want her to worry about me breaking the couch and that we would have serious problems if and when we were ever to live together because things would no longer be hers and mine, but ours, and with her mind set with this approach everything would be hers and that I wouldn't be able to hang the curtains in any manner that wasn't 100% acceptable to her terms.
She proceeds to stomp off into the bedroom where she is now pouting about the fight we just got into. I am posting this and then going home. This is not the first time this has happened. I can not do anything right around this woman and everything has to be her way.
Am I in the wrong here or can I just chalk this up to her being a control freak? What do ya'll think should be one here?