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Anyways here's the situation me and my gf has been goin out for more than 2 years everything is perfect some of my friends even tell me that we sometimes look like a married couple, the only problem is that it's a long distance relationship, it's because i'm in the military. Well anyways to make things short were recently on a break so yeah, she secretly met up with her ex, then she's been hanging out with him for a week now, that's what she told me. Anyways she told me that she started to like him again, i asked her if she loves him she said no, i ask who would she be happy with, she said with me, but because it's long distance it make things complicated. Well as much as it hurts I gave her an ultimatum i said that, she either picks me or him. Bec. i wanna know if i'm wasting my time with her, that's why i told her that. I can't imagine seeing her or imagining her with some other guy, i wanna know now so the healing can begin or not. Anyways do you guys think that i made the right decision.
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there's really only 2 ways to do this kind of thing:

1) you're together when you're together, and when you're apart it's a free-for-all
2) you don't date anyone else at all

A third option is that you break up and don't even think about starting up a relationship again until you're both living in the same area.


Before anyone gives you any advice on how to handle things, you need to reconcile two statements that you made:

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If everything is perfect, why were you on a break?
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You made the right choice in giving her the ultimatum. It doesn't matter if you're long distance, if you're in a committed relationship she shouldn't be shopping behind your back.

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You made the right choice in giving her the ultimatum. It doesn't matter if you're long distance, if you're in a committed relationship she shouldn't be shopping behind your back.


It sucks... but you gotta do what you gotta do.

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You made the right choice in giving her the ultimatum. It doesn't matter if you're long distance, if you're in a committed relationship she shouldn't be shopping behind your back.
EXACTLY!! If she loves you she should wait for you two to be together- not go and find someone to fill ur shoes when you aren't around! I think you did the right thing!


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dude break up with her and move on.. there are plenty of girls out there and your missing out!! your young right? trust me man.. kick her to the curb...lol

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you did the right thing! thats why i would never do the long distance thing. its way to hard for things to work out. when i moved from miami i broke up with a long time gf cause i just cant take not been able to see her and even not been able to hug her( i know that if i stayed in miami we would be married). it was very hard to do but it was the best. we still talk all the time and you never know what may happen later....






good luck man i know how it feels


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^^^I agree with you DUBS. You did the right thing. There is alot of fish in the sea you can go after.


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You were right, you know she's banging that other guy
even if she says she's not. Why else would he be back.
Dump her
Move on

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Well anyways to make things short were recently on a break so yeah, she secretly met up with her ex, then she's been hanging out with him for a week now, that's what she told me. Anyways she told me that she started to like him again, i asked her if she loves him she said no, i ask who would she be happy with, she said with me, but because it's long distance it make things complicated.
Sorry to inform you, but it's over...time to move on. I'm guessing you're young, and if so, you've got a lot of years ahead of you to play the field for someone a) closer and b) more faithful. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't be hanging out with her ex-boyfriend. It's a LOT less complicated to fool around with her boyfriend while you're a million miles away, too.

Move on and have fun!

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