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post #1 of 16 (permalink) Old 03-06-2005, 07:15 AM Thread Starter
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I Really Do Try To Be Strong But...

...Sometimes I just can't deal with it anymore.

I'm probably one of the most open-minded, relaxed people (not being up myself but, they're traits I pride myself on)...

But sometimes things do still get to me no matter how strong I try to be.

Let me explain... one of my friend's fathers has been into me since I was about 17. For gods sake the guy is married with 4 kids and even though he's good looking for his age there is no way in hell I'd ever do anything with him. Admittedly my actions towards him when I was younger could have been taken as flirtation but that's the way I am with EVERY male. It's just the way I come across.

He backs off for a while, and then for some reason I must come back into his consciousness because he'll send me a discreet text message, or email me, or something. By the age of 19 I stopped going around to that particular friends house for fear that he would be there, because it would be far too awkward for me...

Now I'm 21, and he's still persistant. For 4 years I've carried this with me and only one stupid ex boyfriend knows about it. I'm really really having difficulty handling it. What makes it worse, is he's very wealthy, and very prominent in my city, and sometimes speaks on the news and is considered a 'model' citizen. Uggh he absolutely makes me sick.

I feel so pathetic but I have no idea what to do about the situation. I've known the man since I was 12 years old, but it wasn't until I was 17 that he started taking an 'interest'.

Why am I posting this here? Probably because this is a security blanket because I know none of you know me in real life and therefore would have no idea who he was etc.

What do you all think you'd do in my situation?

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post #2 of 16 (permalink) Old 03-06-2005, 08:39 AM
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What's wrong with telling him that his contacting you in any way makes you uncomfortable and to please stop it?

If he doesn't honor your wishes after two reasonable, polite requests to stop contacting you, you might be forced to threaten to "expose" his inappropriate behavior.

Have you tried any of the above? You don't mention in your post above about any worries about "hurting his feelings" so I'm assuming you don't have a problem being direct with him.

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I Really Do Try To Be Strong But...

I've told him that I really don't think his behaviour is appropriate on numerous occasions. For some reason that just seems to make him more eager =/ You're right I should threaten to expose him for all he's worth... the media could do with a good scandal =/

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Scandals are fun.. if he doesn stop rat him out.. or just forward one of his emails back to his wife.
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Marry him and that'll be the end of that!!

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Scandals are fun.. if he doesn stop rat him out.. or just forward one of his emails back to his wife.
Oooh. Your devious and dirty. I LIKE I LIKE!

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Make me your new boyfriend and I can kick his ass!


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What makes it worse, is he's very wealthy, and very prominent in my city, and sometimes speaks on the news and is considered a 'model' citizen.
1) set up recording equipment
2) get it on
3) blackmail
4) Profit!
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post #9 of 16 (permalink) Old 03-07-2005, 11:22 AM
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Just ask his wife to tell him to leave you alone.

Or you can just write it off as just another guy
who isn't going to get what he wants off of you.
If you expose him, his whole family will
probably hate you.

I don't know if he is the first married man who has
shown unwanted intrest in a relationship with you
but I can guaran-damn-tee you he won't be the last.

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Just bring it back up that you do not like what he is doing to you. Also get a restraining order against him for harassment. When you get him let him know that you do not want him to go to jail you just want him to stop trying to get into contact with you.

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