Hey, so I don't post often, but I lurk around a lot. Anyway, I had this big discussion with my boyfriend yesterday, and he makes me think that I'm crazy. I got upset with him because I felt that he was smoking up too often and I told him I thought that he needs to find a nondrug induced method of relaxation. We are grad students and work ~14 hour days, so it's his way of relaxing after work (not every day, but a lot of days). I don't think this is okay, and told him that I can't really be with someone who does this so often. He saw it as me giving him an ultimatum and got defensive. It's not that I wanted to break up with him over it, but if it's such a big part of his life, I couldn't see myself having children with him. Anyway, the compromise we reached is that he's going to cut back. He also said that he doesn't see this being part of his life forever, which had always been one of my concerns. The issue is that he had a much more liberal upbringing than I did, and it's just part of his lifestyle and that of most of his friends. He thinks I'm overreacting, but I know if it's something that is going to upset me over and over that I needed to say something. Am I overreacting? Is it not really as big of a deal as I made of it?