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Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

Hey ladies,

I was just wondering if any of you feel like you are the more dominant one in your relationship. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now, and I am definitely the more dominant one.

But lately I have been feeling like I don't want to be the more dominant one. I am kind of tired of being the one to always make the decisions and be the strong one. I can definitely say that my boyfriend is not the most strong person. He is very emotional, and frankly he'll be the one to cry first in an argument.

I just wish that I could be taken care of, instead of always having to take care of him. I'm a freshman in college, and I have enough to worry about besides my over emotional boyfriend.

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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

In my relationship I am not the dominant one. That sounds bad putting it that way. I am very passive and laid back. My boyfriend even tells me that I am too passive at times. I don't have the urge or the want to be rude or grouchy.....weird?

I wish you well. I personally think a talk is in order. The key to a good relationship is communication

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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

Some reverse feedback:

I am a REALLY laid back guy and Tiffany put it well. I have very little that will cause me to get grouchy or really rude. It's just not part of my nature. I don't like to make decisions when the outcome is of little relevance to me...where to eat...what movie to see...I'm just down for whatever. An ex-gf of mine told me I needed to be more assertive which is why it reminds me of your situation(just not as extreme). Of course, talking to him is something you must do but don't expect miracles right away. Over time, you can "coach" him..point out when you want him to assert himself. Explain to him how you feel when it seems like there needs to be a role reversal...always politely, I might add. Good luck....
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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

i dont like it but i tend to always be.

its not like i'm bossy or spoiled (well ok i guess i can be) but the guys i've dated, and my current guy are laid back types. i hear "whatever makes you happy makes me happy" a lot. it can get kind of annoying because i'm always making the decisions... where we go, what we eat, etc. even when i ask for opinions its always "if you like it, i like it"

sometimes i just want the decisions made for me lol.

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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

i guess it's neutral for roddy and i

we both make decisions


but i tell him to buy me things damnit


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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

lmao

I tell my boyfriend that I refuse to buy anything else for his S2000.

I'm building up his car more than I'm building up mine!

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aww no more! spend all that monies on your car now


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Re: Are you the Dominant one in your relationship??? Good or bad???

Me = Dominant
g/f = agreeable/dominated

It works out well. Sometimes it does get kinda annoying when she doesn't have an opinion but most of the time, it actually works out well for both of us. Recently she asked me if I would ever be able to be with someone who was domineering and I said, "Yeah! But I don't know how long it would last before I felt beaten down." I like someone else being the dominator sometimes but sporadically, not all the time. I'm usually happy to be in control. My sister was in a relationship with a dominating guy and she was a dominating person. He overpowered her and it ended badly. She had to pick up the pieces after that relationship, so I think that balance of personalities is very important to the overall health and well-being of the relationship and those in it, as well as its longevity.
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