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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-20-2008, 05:31 PM Thread Starter
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hello ladies. i need your opinions on an email i received. i have a friend who i have known for about 18 years that is getting married in about 4 months. i had her stand up for me in my wedding 5 years ago. ever since i got married we don't see or talk to each other as much because we live an hour away from each other and plus she has 2 kids and i do not have any. so when i found out she was getting married i was not asked to stand up for her but i got this message from her sister:

So I'm not sure if you've talked to Susie or Karen recently, but we are trying to plan the Bachelorette party. Susie has chosen the date as Nov. 1st (I know it's the day after Halloween, but that's what she wanted). So anyways, Susie has also requested that she wants a stripper...Then she looked on a website and decided she can't choose just one stripper, she wants THREE!!!! She says it's ONLY $350, and I said that would be fine, we just can't have any food or drinks if we are gonna be spending that much on strippers!!! LOL...She told me to get a hold of you and Karie to see if you guys wanted to help plan this shin-dig. I don't have Karie's number, so if you are interested, can you please see if Karie wants to help as well! Most likely this event is going to take place at Karen's Casa. Let me know!
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is it just me or does it sound like they only want to include me because they want money to help pay for this party? because i wasn't asked to help plan her wedding shower, why only this expensive sounding party? plus it doesn't take more than one person to plan a bachelorette party. i planned my sister's bachelorette party and payed for it all on my own plus i plan other huge parties alone. i feel kind of like i am being used. what do you guys think?


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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 07-20-2008, 06:03 PM
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Offer to help plan, but don't offer any financial assistance. If you're not comfortable giving any money, tell her or the friend. I'm sure they will appreciate and understand your honesty.
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i honestly don't have time to even help plan. in september i am starting school full time, working full time, and then i have to plan my annual halloween party. plus my husband is turning 30 so i want to plan something for him also.


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Sorry, I meant if you wanted to help plan. I didn't mean to insinuate that you would.

I would decline their invitation to assist in planning then and you have now removed yourself entirely from the scenario.
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I have a similar situation up to the being asked to help plan. Part of me would think forget this, they only contact me when they want something not to be included cause if that was the cause I'd be in the wedding but I'm a big push over so I'd probably help and justify it by thinking it makes me the bigger person.
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[quote author=FemGearHead link=topic=118130.msg2477426#msg2477426 date=1216591624]
Sorry, I meant if you wanted to help plan. I didn't mean to insinuate that you would.

I would decline their invitation to assist in planning then and you have now removed yourself entirely from the scenario.
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oh no that's cool i just feel like if they wanted me to be included why wasn't i asked to be in the wedding? she didn't help my sister plan any of the parties for my wedding. i just think if they can't afford to have 3 strippers then they shouldn't be having 3 strippers! i don't even want to watch a bunch of strippers...i am hoping they do something else besides having strippers because i don't want to be involved with the stripper part.


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